Featured Mobius Practitioners: Terry Real

“Family pathology rolls from generation to generation like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path, until one person in one generation, has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to his ancestors and spares the children that follow.”

Mobius Senior Expert and bestselling author Terry Real has been a practicing family therapist for more than twenty years. He founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), which is dedicated to teaching the general public how to live relational lives and to teaching mental health professionals the practice of Relational Life Therapy (RLT™). RLI uses Terry’s work to advance the concept of Relational Living™  to help people address relational and psychological health in three critical relationship areas: parenting, coupling, and workforce effectiveness. The institute offers workshops and professional training around the country as well as support services, including coaching.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents, to help them create the connection they desire in their relationships. Increasingly his work on has focused on the long-term effects of patriarchy and the societal shifts required to heal collective trauma.

Terry’s contributions to the field of relational intelligence have been internally recognized and featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, Good Morning America, the CBS Early Show and Oprah, as well as in The New York Times, Psychology Today, Esquire, and numerous academic publications. The New York Times Book Review described Terry’s work as: “A critical contribution to feminist psychology (that) brings the Men’s movement a significant step forward.” Robert Bly hailed it as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”

Recommended Podcast:

Advanced Relationship Jiu Jitsu
Neil Sattin in conversation with Terry Real, this is a fantastic and practical encapsulation of Terry’s relational approach. Listen here.